Comfort in and dumping out

Infertility is hard for everyone.  But mostly for the inner circle people- meaning the person it's happening to and those closest to them.  I had some unhelpful things said to me over the many years of infertility and most of the time I tried correcting the person, by telling them "that wasn't helpful, what you said." In hopes that they wouldn't say it to the next IF person they meet. 

This is the article  How not to say the wrong thing  my dear IF friend sent to me, and I thought it was really helpful, so I wanted to share.

I know we have all screwed up and said the wrong things to people, and dumped in instead of comforting.  But I'm a huge advocate for change and making the world a better, more loving place.  So I'm working on me, I hope you'll join me in this quest. 

Here is the map to help illustrate their point. The author goes on to say, "Don't just avoid dumping into the center ring, avoid dumping into any ring smaller than your own." 

Well, here we are today, Tuesday April 9th, 2013 at 31 weeks.  Monika is roughly 3.3lbs and 16 inches long (wow!) and is the size of about 4 navel oranges.  We had our 2nd of 5 birthing classes tonight. It still feels like a dream that we are going to be having a baby in 9ish weeks.